May 26, 2020
In this episode I explain why it’s important to stop Managing your Teenager and start Mentoring them.
I have a handout that accompanies this episode and it can be downloaded from my website: 📍www.caigraham.com/understanding
Teenagers’ brains are under construction - and with this comes
chaos and overwhelm.
It’s a scary time for them - when their minds are a melting pot or
hormones and invariably they don’t know which way is up.
It’s our
responsibility as parents to hold a space for our teenagers as they
get to grips with what’s going on in their heads.
This maturation carries well on into their twenties - so it’s going
to save a lot of heartaches if we start adapting as soon as
possible.
Whilst they are traveling through adolescence they will
indeed:
✔️ Start questioning our authority
✔️Pushing our buttons
✔️Making questionable decisions
✔️Struggle with their emotions and feelings
this is what independence looks like. So (like it or not) we are
stuck with it!
Our children are learning how to become a young adult.
It’s what they are programmed to do - so there’s no point in trying to resist. What I suggest we do is :
1. Be Patient
2. Validate their Feelings
3. Respect this Independence
4. Consult and Collaborate
5. Allow for Mistakes
6. Understand that your child is an EXPERT in their own lives.
7. LISTEN to their opinions and thoughts.
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Music Credits: MBB: https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy