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The Parent & Teen Toolbox

Feb 16, 2021

EP 49 - Heather Rutherford - Perfectionism : Healthy Standards -v- Unrealistic Expectations


Are you struggling with your teenagers and your beating yourself up about it?

“I’ve been parenting for years … Surely I should have got my parenting under control by now?”

Parenting doesn’t work like that - and yet we get tied up with the ‘mum guilt’ that we haven’t got it right after so long.

Perhaps you are listening to this episode during the lockdown. So many of us are struggling - and yet we set such high expectations of ourselves and those around us.

In this episode, we discuss how we might avoid the Pitfalls of Perfectionism.

TRUTH-BOMB : Perfection is Unachievable - and that’s OK.
Heather and I discuss how we can manage our expectations a little better.


More about Heather :

Heather set up The Parenting Partnership in 2016.

“I signed up for my first parenting course in 2006 when I realized that we needed support to manage our young son’s impulsive, physical and challenging behavior.


The tools and skills that I learned helped transform our young family. I saw, amongst many things, how vital it is to understand a child's temperament and behavior and to communicate more consistently, calmly, and positively.


Through the process, I've learned a lot about myself and these skills have been invaluable in helping me navigate my family through breast cancer and divorce.


I'm intrigued by the science behind parenting strategies and decided that I wanted to learn more and support and help other families. I completed my training with the fabulous team at the Parent Practice and became a licensed certified educator.


I am also a Care for the Family licensed facilitator and have recently joined the team at the school's advisory service,  Talk Education,  as their parenting consultant. 


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